Not A Good Day.

Peace be with you and may your mom RIP.
Call your brother.
 
Thank you, everybody. I've spent quite a bit of time in the shop, just piddling with small things. Finished the spindle for my toolpost grinder, but bored the bearing recess in the housing too large. Forgot to measure three times. My wife has been nothing short of amazing in helping me deal with this. She's given me the time and space to get things sorted in my head, and knows just when I need her.
We spent several hours with my brother and his wife on Sunday. Both of us have changed, a lot. We can't get back the time we lost, but the things that drove us apart have been forgiven, and we're slowly connecting again.

Honestly, there is no way to sugar coat this. I didn't talk to my mom for many, many years. I made no effort to keep track of her. That's all on me. Understandably, her family thinks very little of me. I left a lot of things unsaid, I really hurt my mom's feelings, and she hated that my brother and I weren't talking. I never got to say goodbye to her. That is my fault, and I accept that.

But, I know she'd be happy that my brother and I are talking again. Some good has come out of this.
 
Sometimes life isn't happy just to sucker punch you in the face. Sometimes it'll kick you in the nuts when you're already down.

My dad has been diagnosed with AL Amyloidosis. The doctors put him on chemo for it, but his blood protein levels didn't drop appreciably, and he had a bad reaction to the chemo. 911 ride back to the hospital for another 5 days.

He's been taken off chemo and put on a pain management regime. The VA is assigning a home care nurse and moving some equipment into their house to help my stepmom take care of him. His liver is about shot, his kidneys are barely functioning, and the crap has settled into his heart and lungs. The doctors are now focusing on quality of life. Quantity isn't an option.

He was fine 2 months ago.

Now it's simply the waiting game. I'm flying out to California in the next few days. Not sure how long I'll be there, or when I'll have to fly back out on a last minute flight.

First my mom died, now my dad is dying. I can honestly say that the last two months have been the sh!##!est of my entire life. I'm thankful for my wife. She's doing an amazing job of helping me keep it together and getting through all this. I won't be in the shop for awhile. I don't trust myself not to make a stupid mistake while distracted.

This just sucks, and there's not a damn thing I can do about it.
 
Thinking and praying for you and your family.
 
when problems are hitting you there is something you can do about it---just turn them over to the Lord and be at peace---He can handle what we can't---our prayers are with you and your family---Dave
 
So sorry, ogberi.

Yup, sometimes it does just suck, no two ways about it. You're doing the right thing though. Take the down time, you need it more than you think. And make the peace now with your kin when you can. All of a sudden, it'll be too late.

-frank
 
Whats happening to you is terrible. Im very sorry for the emotional trauma you and your family are going through. My prayers go out to you.

Sent from somewhere in East Texas Jake Parker
 
Thank you for the reminder.
Call your brother.
Whatever happened, whenever it happened, however legit it was, as you know, it just isn't worth holding on to.

Thank you for the reminder.

Daryl
MN
 
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