Ah, just read your thread. You mentioned that the mesh wasn't good with the worm gear? If that's still the case you may find that a 42 tooth wheel actually helps this somewhat.
Having said that, finding the cause of the actual problem is probably more productive than making a stronger gear.... You may just end up breaking something else. Powder metal gears survive perfectly well in all sorts of applications such as angle grinder gearboxes and suchlike, so trundling away in an apron shouldn't be an issue all other things being equal! It's not an easy task to produce a proper worm wheel either.
A few things spring to mind here to look at:
Is something binding and causing excessive load on the gear?
Is the worm gear tooth profile misformed in any way and actually cutting the wheel?
Is something misaligned causing the mesh to be poor?
Is the mesh still poor even with your mod to hold the gear more positively in the apron? How much backlash is there?
Some pics would help no end
for a gear to get destroyed so quickly, something other than the gear is definitely not right!