Very Hard Decisions to make about my Dad

Good advice all around. From dementia to dehydration. Dad's coming home for the first time in a year, hopefully for the duration. He's 92.

You need a geriatric specialist. A GP will be totally inadequate and possibly dangerous. The meds, when they work, are wonderful. Dad was psychotic. Now with seroquel and aricept he's totally rational. I've got my Dad back.

Best wishes for a similar outcome.
 
Charlie your families safety is your primary concern. Call your doctor and lat them know what your concerns are. The anger is a serious issue. Your town or county should have some healthcare resources that you can also contact.

Don't try to take this on yourself. Contact local resources that can advise or help. Someone who understands your situation needs to advise the best care for dad.

I have a terminal brain disease and, due to advice and intervention by concerned doctors, did whatever pre-death planning I could do while still able. In Colorado it's called the "Five Wishes" document. It clarifies how I wish to spend my remaining days, as very specific about late stages and death. Who has authority for my financial and health decisions. My final wishes, and what to do with my stuff. And where to spread my ashes. It is a comfort to me knowing whatever hard decisions need to be made for me are my own wishes. Talk with your mother and family about this.

Visit this site http://www.agingwithdignity.org/

[h=3]Five Wishes[/h] Wish 1: The Person I Want to Make Health Care Decisions for Me When I Can't
Wish 2: The Kind of Medical Treatment I Want or Don’t Want
Wish 3: How Comfortable I Want to Be
Wish 4: How I Want People to Treat Me
Wish 5: What I Want My Loved Ones to Know
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We are all in this together and will all meet again. PM me if you'd like. It's not too late to get prepared.. :)
Good Wishes to you all.
Bob
 
Found out today my Dad has shingles, went to the Dr. with my mother and the Dr. pulled me aside and told me my Mother is in early stages of Dementia.
My mother has a lot of pride & is very stubborn (Dr.'s words also) There's not much hope in getting help from siblings other than my Brother so I'll just keep doing what I can. I need to go get them on Medicaid soon maybe tomorrow.

My parents final plans are arranged & paid for & have been for years.
 
Charley Davidson said:
Found out today my Dad has shingles, went to the Dr. with my mother and the Dr. pulled me aside and told me my Mother is in early stages of Dementia.
My mother has a lot of pride & is very stubborn (Dr.'s words also) There's not much hope in getting help from siblings other than my Brother so I'll just keep doing what I can. I need to go get them on Medicaid soon maybe tomorrow.

My parents final plans are arranged & paid for & have been for years.
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Sad news. Charlie the five-wishes are for you to have clear instructions what your parents want you to do now. For example is a Hospice situation what they would want or hospitalized? Or when the time comes to stop feeding and just control pain. Die at home surrounded by family without pain.

End-of-life care can be expensive. Everyone reading this post should visit the 5 wishes site. At least get medical and financial powers of attorney before serious disability makes these decisions impossible. Would they want to be hospitalized for perhaps years, trapped in their own minds unable to communicate? Aware of everything but helpless? No, of course not. Me neither so I made provisions for my care at various symptoms of my disease. What to do, what not to do and my final wishes.

Also records of bank accounts, insurance policies, and other documents you will need later. It's the right thing to do.
BB
 
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