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Sorry to hear that, we went through similar with my mother a few years ago but with dementia. She was living on her own but got a bladder infection and had to be admitted to the hospital in 2016. She was never right after that, and could no longer live alone. My brother and I both tried to take her in for a short time, but she was even beyond that. She needed full time supervision and we ended up having to put her into an assisted living place. By the end of 2018 she was gone. It was only 2 years but it felt like 20, not a good time.
The biggest piece of advice I can offer to someone facing a similar situation you have already dealt with. Get the legal documents in order while she can sign them. If we had been able to get her to sign a power of attorney when she was still competent it would have made things so much easier, but things progressed much faster than we expected.
Not to get dark, but honestly at my lowest point I serious contemplated taking her for a nice drive out to the coast and reenacting the end of Harold and Maude, one of her favorite movies (and mine). I would have had to borrow a Jaguar though, that damn Volvo would have been survivable.
Make sure you take care of yourself and your wife, it can be brutal to become responsible for a parent and watch someone lose their independence.
The biggest piece of advice I can offer to someone facing a similar situation you have already dealt with. Get the legal documents in order while she can sign them. If we had been able to get her to sign a power of attorney when she was still competent it would have made things so much easier, but things progressed much faster than we expected.
Mom always said, when I get too old to live on my own, just take me out fishing and push me in. We always laughed.
I can't do that.
Not to get dark, but honestly at my lowest point I serious contemplated taking her for a nice drive out to the coast and reenacting the end of Harold and Maude, one of her favorite movies (and mine). I would have had to borrow a Jaguar though, that damn Volvo would have been survivable.
Make sure you take care of yourself and your wife, it can be brutal to become responsible for a parent and watch someone lose their independence.