It is sad but true and old age is waiting for us all. Good luck to you and your familyHey all,
I know many of you are in the golden years or lingering around them. Many of you have gone through or are going through what we are dealing with. Dad's gone now.
My mother is 88.
My wife took her to the emergency room last Friday. She lost the ability to walk and was having trouble with her hands and her speech is affected.
Long story short, she is now in a good aggressive rehab. facility near our home.
She is complaining they are working her too hard. She tells my wife one thing and me another.
My wife observed one of her PT sessions. Mom seems to be avoiding doing the work by asking the PT, personal questions. Avoiding the work.
She was living by herself in a nice apartment near us.
I'm not so sure she is going to be able to return.
That just breaks my heart.
She is not a woman that will do well in a skilled nursing home or even a facility where they offer services while she has an apartment.
This is difficult. Fortunately she has a good investment portfolio we can draw from.
Thankfully we have the trust all squared away, I am a co-trustee with power of attorney, health directive agent etc.
Mom always said, when I get too old to live on my own, just take me out fishing and push me in. We always laughed.
I can't do that.
We have never included inheritance money in our retirement planning.I told my mom that she worked hard for her money, and she should use it for herself. I also told her that if she died with a dollar to her name she should fire her accountant for not having spent it all....
I came into this world with nothing, and still have most of it left
tjb,You are not alone. Here is a great resource:
Atul Gawande’s ‘Being Mortal’ (Published 2014)
Atul Gawande believes that the medical profession’s job is to “enable well-being,” not just strive for survival.www.nytimes.com
Regards,
Terry
You're welcome, Jeff. It was a real eye-opener to me as well. I've been following your progress on this thread, and it sounds like you've worked diligently to choose the optimal facility for your Mom. You are to be congratulated.tjb,
I just wanted to thank you for recommending this book.
I haven’t finished it yet, but so far I appreciate the valuable insight of the aging process and how we go through it.
We’ve been working our buts off and have mom’s apartment ready for her arrival on Tuesday.You're welcome, Jeff. It was a real eye-opener to me as well. I've been following your progress on this thread, and it sounds like you've worked diligently to choose the optimal facility for your Mom. You are to be congratulated.
Glad to hear that book is helping you out in this difficult segment of her life. Clearly, she was a great Mom. She raised a good son.
Regards,
Terry
Wow! That looks very nice!We’ve been working our buts off and have mom’s apartment ready for her arrival on Tuesday.